“What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
There are numerous articles and texts that a person can read that may provide guidance in developing leadership skills, unfortunately, this is not one. Rather this is an anecdote illustrating the impact of lacking such skills.
Throughout education training and classroom management skills development, the concept of treating those who enter your classroom as individuals with unique experience and thoughts to share is touted quite vehemently. Support their learning and encourage each individual and success will be achieved, easy enough right? Well, how about this situation? For those teachers out there reading this I would bet a month’s wage, just think you can get yourself a tank of gas and maybe a coke, that you have had this experience… A student is in proximity to other students who are misbehaving. Not fully knowing the breadth of the situation you pull the group together and reprimand them all guilty and not. You may have achieved your desired goal of setting those misbehaving students back on their academic course, however; are you aware of the unintended consequences of your actions?
Through your actions you have created a new dissident among your ranks. That one non guilty student whose guilt lies only in proximity to the event now sees their experience lined with distrust and Machiavellian actions governing their environment. Is there any way to reconcile these new found understandings dwelling within this student? Maybe, however; at its core there is no way to repair the damage done within the relationship. To be wrongly accused of an action and to receive no conciliatory acknowledgement has to be one of the most disengaging acts held between two people. Damaged as it may be a person well aware of the situational power dynamics that govern actions in hierarchical relationships realize that the outcome in action can be narrowed to only one end course of action, Compliance.
To be continued…
Keep an eye out for the upcoming posts:
On Compliance and On Reciprocity